Do you ever feel like you get lost in, what seems to be, the never ending frenzy of life? Even before a worldly pandemic set in I often struggled to keep up with the daily responsibilities that life seemed to place in front of me. If you know me at all you might be a little surprised to learn I felt this way because I am great at pretending I have got it “all under control”.
I had often heard of the benefits to setting goals. At some point last year, after receiving weekly emails from author and podcaster, Emily P. Freeman, I learned that she took time to reflect on what she had been learning each season.
I remember noticing this the most when she shared about the importance of reflection in order to know where to go next. It was in her podcast episode entitled "Look Back" - https://emilypfreeman.com/podcast/the-next-right-thing/61/
I tend to feel anxious and unprepared about what may be coming next. This podcast and practice has helped provide some peace to the anxiety.
Each season I am learning what it looks like to reflect - the how, why, when. As a writer I tend to struggle to take too long to get to the point (oops, I just did that! 😋). This season I am taking the advice of Emily and putting what I've learned into a list.
10 Things I Learned in later July and August 2020
1. Be flexible to what the day brings
This practice, that I am just beginning, has allowed me to have great visits w/ friends both locally and far away, hang out with family, have hard conversations that helped relationships grow, rest when it was more needed than tackling the never-ending to do list and to serve my family or care for our home
2. I'm a human.
Duh! 😋 Anyone else trying to be perfect rather than being human? While this truth may feel limiting, this next truth breaks that barrier:
"In God’s economy we start each day at 100%. He has named me as worthy. I can receive it or not. When I do I get to use the gifts He’s given me from Him calling me worthy, not for my worthiness."
These life-giving words came from a podcast called "Girl's Night" with Stephanie Mae Wilson. You can listen to it here - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/girls-night-with-stephanie-may-wilson/id1278993781?i=1000487668642
3. I'm loved so I can chill out.
God is pleased with me because of what Jesus did for me on the cross 2,000 years ago and not because of what I do to try to earn His love and affection.
4. Conflict is a part of life and having the hard conversations are worth it in the end.
When the conflict occurs it doesn't mean it's necessarily my fault. It means that there is an area in the relationship that needs attention. If someone chooses to reject me that doesn't mean anything is wrong with me.
TRUTH - I am still loved and made worthy in God's eyes.
5. I am getting more brave at sharing encouraging words.
Hence the blog. My readers (that's you! 😘) encourage me to keep reflecting and writing. Thank you! Keep it up and so will I!
6. Things I love to do, am learning to do, and want to continue to do:
spending time with friends
receive God's peace
look for it each day and share it
spend time in nature take pictures of the sky
7. What's working in my daily routines:
writing morning pages
doing a different writing practice/focus each day, Tuesday through Friday only
reviewing what I learned from my goals my morning routine my workouts
doing things I enjoy as my way to rest on Sundays
reviewing celebrations/how God answered prayers during the past week
praying for specific people on specific days
400 abs/day (thanks for the inspiration Lexi and Danah!)
keeping a fluff list - a list of random thoughts that I go back to later and put into other various to do lists #ilovelists
working off a project list that has specific categories to keep me focused: personal, family and beyond. (This was discovered from the podcast Learn Do Become - https://learndobecome.com/episode80/
Setting reminders for shopping and other various lists
8. What's not working:
summarizing quotes I note on a regular basis
how to celebrate how God has answered prayers each week
doing certain tasks each day (calendar, office desk, meal planning) I have been traveling a lot lately so I am going to continue to work on this one.
And that's all she wrote folks! Well, at least for this reflection season. Based on this I have updated how I will be reflecting for the fall and I am excited to share that next reflection in a few months!
I hope these reflections encourage and inspire you! If you have any questions or would like more information, feel free to post a comment below. Keep going and growing!